Nobody ask, but many act like one. It might sound simple, but it's not easy for a husband and wife to decide to end a marriage. Often they spend a long time trying to solve problems before deciding to divorce. But sometimes they just can't fix the problems and decide that a divorce is the best solution. Change is a natural part of life, but when it happens to your family, it is sometimes really hard to deal with.
Yang paling penting anak2 yang jadi mangsa...sian kan?Sometimes it hurts kids' feelings when one parent wants to leave the house where they live. It is hard not to take it personally. It's important to remember that divorce happens between the husband and wife, and even though it affects the whole family, it doesn't mean that a parent who leaves the house doesn't care about the kids. :(
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Paling penting, perceraian takkan mengubah perkara ni, walaupun mak & ayah tak lagi tinggal sama2, they still our parent. That will never change.
Saya kenai beberapa kawan2, jiran2, kawan kepada kawan2, kawan yg tak berapa nak kawan dan sedara mara yang berada dlm situasi ni. Some of it happen because dat is not their call, pity. But life must goes on & boleh kawin lain yer cik senah cik man hihihihihihi....jgn lupa jemput ai tau ;-).
When i read thru some magazines & articles..i can say amongst of the reasons are those....
1.Kurang rasa tanggungjawab & tak sesuai
Ni mungkin sbb kawin bukan sebab cinta, alahhh tak cinta plak jadi alasan takmo rasa tanggungjawab & rasa tak sesuai yer. Konon kawin sbb mak apak aturkan, alah kau ni senah macam org tahun 70an lah...takkan la terus tengok gambar dan2 kawin plak. Aih.
Pada saya, coba la carik apa yg sesuai dulu sblm pi buat keputusan nak kawin, kok yer pun. lagi satu mak apak jgn la naya anak2 yer.
2. Kurang komunikasi sesama pasangan
Takkan la balik keje terus muncung2 makan nasi mandi manda tunaikan hajat terus tido. Sembang2 la dulu, lantak la sorg nak kata, eh murai la awak ni hihihihi. takpe, citer pasal boss yg tak best kat opis pun boleh, citer pasai ai beli jam baru ni hg rm5000, ok dak ni? ni pun boleh. Bersembang2 lah tuk dekatkan distance walau sebodoh mana pun topik tu hehe.
3. Tinggal gantung tak bertali, Alkohol
Ni lagi satu kes yang mengherankan. Kau dah kawin tak nyempat2 pastu pi tinggai plak. Ok, may to some couple they leave because of partner bad habits, but some because he/she is bad. Lagi satu alkohol, jgn kau sesekali coba dekati, period!.
4. Penderaan (fizikal, seksual, dan emosi)
Ai memang tak paham part yang ni, takyah citer lah...sah2 yg prektis ni gila. Pesanan pada mak apak & adik beradik mereka2....jgn kau aniaya anak orang yer.
5. Tak berkeupayaan kendalikan konflik
Sebab paling utama, tak matang. Kalau rasa kuar umah masih lagi mak yg pilihkan baju, jgn nak kawin lah yer. Camno nak settle problem lelagi kalau pasangan tu kaki melawan & asyik mintak reasoning. Kau sure kalah & surrender pastu tak blh tahan.
6. Berbeza matlamat
Dah nama manusia, memang la beza2 matlamatnya. Tapi sebagai org yang normal, bila dah kawin & ada anak2 matlamatnya adalah untuk keluarga.Cuba la bukak minda balik dan muhasabah diri.
7. Berbeza pandangan pada kerja2 rumah & masalah kewangan.
Bila ni terjadi, takde lagi sifat nak bertolak ansur & berkorban tuk melakukannya.Jadi masing2 akan rasa frustrated & it will effect more.
8. Sorang pandai sorang kurang pandai atau dua2 terlebih pandai
Bila tak compatible mesej nak disampaikann tak sampai, dan bila dua2 terlebih pandai...nak lawan plak sapa lebih pandai. aih payah ni. paling elok berpada2 la nak pandai pun ekekekeke.
Kalau pun benar terjadi, kawin lain jemput ai yer...ai dah lama tak pi kenduri kawen nih hihihihi...moga anda2 semua berbahagia & dapat mencari kebahagian masing2.
"At the time that I knew them, they were not living
together. They began dating again after their divorce, so I didn't
really see fighting."
Sue!
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